Use the Interruption
Life has a way of interrupting our best-laid plans, often at the most unexpected times. As I was preparing to introduce The Reframe, my father transitioned. Managing his departure from this dimension paused my work and deepened my vision of The Reframe — showing me that even in heartbreak, there is strength, meaning, and gratitude. My father used his life - challenges and triumphs - to center personal freedom, prioritize creativity, normalize failure and honor the power of forgiveness. He used his experience to uplift, create community, and remind us that heartbreak, challenge, and complexity are part of the shared human experience.
Losing my father in the physical dimension has forced me to reframe not just my grief but also my understanding of legacy and purpose. I know, now, that I have been thinking too small and maybe too slowly.
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The five pillars of The Reframe—once a professional framework for personal growth—are now even more personal. It turns out that I’ve used these very tools throughout my life, and they, too will guide me through grief:
Naming the Strain
Clearing the Floor
Reintroducing Oneself
Armoring Up
Getting Back on the Field
While I will continue explaining these concepts in professional and personal settings, my soul requires that I first (re)name how these pillars are shaping my new journey.
The Five Pillars of The Reframe in the Face of Loss
Developing Language for Remembrance - Loss brings a flood of emotions, and working to explicitly name those feelings helps transform them into something we can hold. I still speak of my father in the present tense, recognizing his influence on my thoughts, the akashic records and general consciousness.
Clearing the Floor - Grief often comes with “what-ifs,” but The Reframe teaches us to clear the mental clutter of anything that is not in service of mental and physical wellbeing. Knowing that the body keeps the score I am finding ways to surrender to my new journey and let the old story go. I’m focused on creating more space for gratitude.
Recognizing Their Presence - My father’s essence is a permanent force that will continue to give shape to the universe. I see him in the sun. I hear him in music. He narrates my long car rides as I play back our wild conversations about American politics and spirituality. Reframing loss is noticing the echoes as reminders of love’s transformation.
Armoring Up with New Rules for Grief - Like all journeys, grief is nonlinear. And society pressures us to “move on.” The Reframe offers permission to grieve and grow in our own time, while also recognizing that sorrow and joy can coexist - honoring the complexity of the human experience.
Getting Back into Life with Their Legacy - Expanding The Reframe is a direct reflection of my father’s teachings. He taught to live as a servant, and now, I honor him by continuing this work. The show must go on, not in defiance of grief, but in reverence to love’s enduring presence.
The loss of a loved one - especially a parent - reshapes us, but it does not have to shrink us. The Reframe began as a framework for power-driven healing - and I get to test it on a new wound. The show must continue, not because I am ignoring my grief, but because I must tell more of my stories. Our stories uplift others and remind them that they are not alone.
